Queening 101


In a society that tells women from a young age what they are capable and incapable of doing, how they are to look, and my personal favorite “smile, honey” I’m here to bring what is hopefully a breath of fresh air. Forget “daddy’s little princess” or child beauty pageants or any language that perpetuates the idea that women are to be beautiful on the outside so she can land a man that takes care of her every need. This does nothing to strengthen her inner beauty or her spirit. While there are many people joining this conversation, this is still a very real, monumental issue that saturates our media. So I will continue to speak out until I see real change being made in the hearts of people around the world.

Don’t settle for Princess when you are born to be a Queen. Here are 5 practical ways to transform into a Queen that don’t involve marrying into a royal family:

Queens are brave. They have the boldness to face their obstacles head-on despite feeling afraid. To quote Meg Cabot “Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something is more important than fear; The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all.” Have you ever been told you weren’t capable of doing something you felt called to do? Did you happen to believe them, too? You are a Queen. You were made to do this; you can overcome your fears.

Queens are self-assured. They have the inner strength to not be intimidated by other women’s beauty and are not influenced by a man’s status or looks. They know just who they are and are comfortable in their own skin. When a woman is not self-assured this can lead to negative self-talk and even lead to the degradation of other women. We have enough things going against us, one of those things should not be other women. I believe there is beauty in all of us. You are a Queen – own it! “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Queens are ambitious. They do not sit by idly hoping others will make decisions for them because they are the leaders! It’s important to have a circle of close friends to act as advisor, but ultimately it’s you who has the deciding vote. No matter what: dream big, work hard, and your goals will be attainable.

Queens are wise. They don’t base their permanent actions off of temporary feelings. They listen to sound advice. Wisdom comes when you allow yourself – both body and mind – to become still; to observe just a little bit more than you react. There are many great verses in Proverbs that speak on wisdom that I find have simple, real-life applications to them. 29:11 “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” 14:1 “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” 19:20 “Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.”

Queens are just. They believe in equality for all. Men and women, rich and poor, all the ethnicities and religions of the world you treat with the same level of fairness and kindness. This creates trust, peace, and unity to all those who surround you. If I were to have a famous quote from the age of 5 it would be “that’s not fair!” I remember being really sensitive about this from a young age. I noticed when I was being treated unfairly and even when others were discriminated against. It’s important to want fairness for all. Pair this with your bravery to stand against the grain, your self-confidence in the face of opposition, your ambition to see your goals through, and your wisdom in delicate situations and together, as Queens, we can make the world a marvelous place.


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